Notice without critiquing. Appreciate without comparing. Listen without interruption. Question without objection. Challenge without mocking. Consider without doubting. Discuss without criticizing. Smile without hesitation. Give without expectation. Comfort without lying. Guide without misleading. Forgive without resentment. Rest without judgement. Be you. Just the way you are. Respect them as they are.
One of the mothers in our group keeps these words visible on her phone as a reminder to meet people where they are. It speaks to last week’s conversation, based on David Richo’s idea that we feel loved when we receive “attention, acceptance, appreciation, and affection, and when we are allowed the freedom to live in accord with our own deepest needs and wishes.”
We talked about the true nature of acknowledging and accepting another person. We can ask ourselves, “what is blocking me from accepting this person?” Awareness of the five A’s gives us the opportunity to be in relationship others without harming ourselves or them–even if we don’t necessarily agree.
Vision Board Activity
Plan to join us on March 6th to create vision boards. Bring a pair of scissors and magazines of any kind from which to trim out images that inspire you. Come work on your board while visiting with other moms, or work solo, taking this time for personal retreat.
Martha Beck talks about how vision boards can inspire us:
When you start assembling pictures that appeal to (your) deep self, you unleash one of the most powerful forces on our planet: human imagination. Virtually everything humans use, do, or make exists because someone thought it up. Sparking your incredibly powerful creative faculty is the reason you make a vision board. The board itself doesn’t impact reality; what changes your life is the process of creating the images…that will stick in your subconscious mind and steer your choices toward making the vision real.
Plan to join us on March 6th